Wednesday, September 9, 2009
About time
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Motherlessness
Motherlessness, like joblessness, this state
I have entered, with my children
far away from home,
and my mother gone from this world:
a day of reminders in the farmer’s market,
abundant with babies and mothers,
toddlers and grandmothers, among the strawberries,
a day that proclaims itself dedicated
to the appreciation of mothers
makes me feel use-less.
My self-esteem is on the line,
now I am laid off too, dispensable,
the job eliminated after all these years,
there was never a paycheck but
the loss of my worth measured by
a day of no cards and flowers.
Like all the others, who by no fault of their own
when they loose their jobs
are still shamed by the myths of success
they were told we achieve for ourselves
I too am framed by the stories I was raised on
alive in this country even as childbirth
is now an uninsurable condition.
But still how lucky I am to have two daughters
born in another time,
and a mother, who did not live to see this
world in such shambles.
And perhaps it will all be worth something much more
than this day of feeling forgotten, someday
this future that my daughters are preparing for us
as they work so hard to learn the language of repair.
Friday, May 8, 2009
Post Cards
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Yes, and….
After all the bad news stories of a recession happening in the world of teeth cracked from the grinding stress, defaulted condos where the occupants are left stranded, hard-working star employees who have to end their Circuit City jobs as their customers are consumed with the best deals.
http://www.ThisAmericanLife.org/Radio_Episode.aspx?episode=377
There are still more stories on NPR of those bloated bankers, labor union busters, drunk with way too much wealth CEO’s.
All the time while we are wondering where their money came from. How they grew so big, as we are scrambling to keep or get a job.
There is no shortage of stories of crisis, in our instant gratification society,as Obama names it, where we are “lurching from shock to trance.”
But listening, really listening, is something else.
It is not the shutting down brain washed drugged out re-making of us into emptiness, not the trance where we stop talking about politics and economics as if they have nothing to do with our enlightenment .
Listening takes a big belly breath, our opening like a flower in the midst of all this mess and actively hearing what you are saying without asking any questions or offering advice, or making any comments about your possibly never getting where you thought you might someday.
Listening takes just being with you right now and seeing what you see and where it is we are in the wide awake world.
Yes, and finding there is still happiness, grateful to be alive-ness.
There is still time to invent, dream, think, and find peace between us.
Friday, April 10, 2009
the questions we ask
Why do we tell this story? Really, why do we tell any story? Why is it important to remember? Could there be some connection between what is happening here, right now and what is happening in other places in the world and other times in history?Why are we asking and why are we afraid to ask?
I am looking at the time line of my life, thinking of the journey I have taken, the journey my parents took, and my grandparents took. I am looking all the way back and all around me, at all the journeys that make up the America where I live.
If it is true that there is a Pharaoh not only in every age, and in every state, but in every self, if it is true that there are slaves now and oppressors as there were then, if it is true our freedom is a goal but without vision we do not even remember, then we need to hear the stories.
In front of me, on the table, are a question mark and a string. I have my own string and a string that links everyone at the table together. In this Seder everything has meaning,
Naomi Klein in The Shock Doctrine: The Rise of Disaster Capitalism writes:
If economic crisis hits and it is severe enough- a currency meltdown, a marked crash, a major recession- it blows everything else out of the water and leaders are liberated to do whatever is necessary(or said to be necessary) in the name of responding to a national emergency. Crises are, in a way, democracy-free zones-gaps in politics as usual when the need for consent and consensus do not seem to apply.
In my life’s time line there are stories that include shock and fear. There are times of silence and forgetting. Times of complacency. Even now, as I write these words and ask these questions, I am afraid. Because the unthinkable happens. The meltdown Naomi Klein writes about may be happening right here in America. And we don’t even know that we need to get going.
At this table we are talking about the journey we must take to freedom. It is not a journey we can take alone, yet it is a journey we must take alone as a journey of conscience. Where our past meets our present so we can move into our future. Where memory and imagination are the sources of our redemption.
The journey to freedom is not the journey that leaves behind a trail of trash. It is not the freedom to do whatever we want to the earth and to each other. Not the freedom of greed and an the unbridled market We are talking about the freedom to live without fear of thinking, feeling, caring, questioning. The freedom to take responsibility, to build bridges, to work for a better world, a green world, a healed world. To live in peace and prosperity where dreams guide us.
At this table the parsley is dipped into salt water as our hope is dipped into our tears. The pain we did not even know was there, the pain of those around us, breaks open. As the world is broken, as the matzah is broken, our hearts are broken and hunger fills us. Meaning fills us. And the changed world begins. A world where we do not inflict this pain of what happened to us onto others. Where we know that we are all connected to the same thread.
My lifeline is filled with stories about religion and the politics, poverty and wealth, hatred and love, fear of being found out and the courage to use my voice. It is filled with rituals that guide me to strength and hope.
Here is another story I want to share:
I have just come back from a visit to the Sonoran desert of Tucson, a visit with my best friend from high school, daughter of industrials who never knew the Great Depression. We remember each other’s past, our years of communal living, the struggles, the trip we first took together across the country. The help we found along the way.
Together we stand in the center of a labyrinth she is making in the sand, where nature is everywhere a force to be treated with reverence. Where water, earth, air, sun remind us of the challenge of the journey and its blessings.
On the other side of the mountains, in the shadows, there are many still trying to get here to this land that has meant their chance for a better life. They are hiding along with the drug smugglers and the weapon dealers. While we stand here, for a moment in sacred time, in the center of the labyrinth, with our memories, our imagination, and the path that brought us together in this 54th spring of our lives, in the first pure light of the sun’s beginning, with the awakening song of the birds, with the vision of the eagles, with the renewal of the serpents.
For this moment in time we have a chance to integrate our past with our present and our future, to imagine a world of peace for all the inhabitants of this earth we share. To seek the strength and healing we need to make this happen. To bless force of the universe that created all of this, that we could be witness to it. And to bless our journey of aging wisdom and our question as creators in this creation:
What is our responsibility now?
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Job Announcements and the Lies People Tell
Please forgive me.
I stopped writing after the fourth job interview that went nowhere. I can’t figure out the story I want to tell anymore.
The newspapers are dying. The corner stores are dying.
And then the weekend before last, as I was finishing my CORE III earthquake emergency preparedness training, putting out real fires,four police officers were shot dead, and their killer too.
After this two adults came into a classroom at my high school brandishing guns, and robbed the students. Somewhere else the same week a fifteen-year-old girl, a high school drop out, was murdered, and a young child witnessed her mother with a bullet in her head, in the car seat beside her.
All week I am dealing with crisis.
That my husband has no job, hardly matters.
Can’t figure out how this happened, that the world I thought I was growing up into became something so different.
People who are desperate, traumatized, who have no options, who failed to get an education, commit terrible crimes.
But there are others, people who had the best education, and every option. Some of them are people who lie and cheat and steal, lured the top college graduates away from medicine and engineering, into their number games and pyramid schemes,then let people tumble away as waste, after they gambled away their middle class future.
We were the ones who had believed in the stories they told us. The ones who believed in our college education. Believed in owning a house. Saving in a 401K. Making a commitment to work hard. We believed it would lead to a better life. We would not end up the desperate ones who committed terrible crimes. Not the ones who ended up homeless, hungry, deprived.
I am not sure anymore what story to tell.
People are disappearing, being forgotten.
There are not enough reporters to investigate what is going on.
It’s hard to keep up with the story because it’s changing too quickly.
Like how suddenly the ski slopes that used to have the long lift lines are surprising empty.
They tell us we must be vigilant about our safety. Watch all the doors. And then they cancel our health insurance. Even scarier than losing a job is this: being middle age and grey.
Did you know that you are uninsurable if you have pre-existing conditions, like high blood pressure, or diabetes?
Why aren’t the job offers following the interviews my husband gets?They love his resume, they love him on the phone, what happens next when they meet him in person?
I always thought that how you looked only mattered if you wanted to be a movie star but all of a sudden it’s the most important thing. I’m looking at people and trying to figure out: Are they the lucky ones still in the work force, or the ones cast off? I am exploring their wrinkles, appraising the pain in their face.
Quick: I think, cover it up. Die you hair. Dumb yourself down. Make yourself be someone who graduated with a BS or MS in Computer Science June 2008 - June 2009, an extraordinary coder with engineering talent.
Yes. That’s true. That’s what the latest job announcement actually says.
I answer:
If they don’t want you and your experience, why be an engineer? Go teach the young people I work with to play guitar. They are dying to have you. They will think it’s cool you play so well, that you're still like them at heart.
There is work, even if it pays nothing, that’s more important. You can save a life. Really.
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
UNEMPLOYMENT in the SPRING
This year the return of Spring
hurts: it’s too full of light, too scented
with jasmine and daphne,
too loud with ecstatic birds in the morning
mothers and babies, starting over .
Spring this year is too warm
and close to the impossibly blue
melting icecaps.
It’s marking time, mocking
what we’ve lost, four months now since
November, and we’re only older
and closer to another birthday.
We should be off
on adventures, laying on beaches,
taking advantage of our empty nest’s freedom.
We should be celebrating,
close to retirement.
How strange and disconcerting
this stopping in our life
before we’re ready
this stopping of work, when after all, losing a job is not as bad
as a life, a marriage, or the planet.
Still, it’s what I fear most.
Haunted by this image
not just losing a job, but not being able to find another,
and never working again.
Or another image: having to keep working
on and on, when I am too old and tired.
Either way, as the latest issue of The Economist puts it
in America which has “one of the lowest social safety nets
in the rich world, " this spring of 2009
leads me back to that job crisis